The walk together

I met Rajeev P S Nair on May 24th, 2008. We had talked a couple of times before we met, as we waited for the formalities of the arranged marriage to be negotiated. Once the horoscopes matched and the families were satisfied, we met in Bangalore. Our wedding was fixed on June 1, we got engaged on June 29th and got married on August 28th, all in the same year.

Like any other couple, we have had our ups and downs. There were a million things that we accomplished together, and there were moments when we considered being together as the gravest mistake ever committed by any human being on Earth. I had a talk with one of my friends yesterday and he was asking me why I was so withdrawn these days. He could not understand why I could not break free and have fun with people. I could not understand it either. He gave me a simple solution. He asked me to think about what was it in my relation with Rajeev that holds us together inspite of the distance. It was definitely not just the commitment of being married and having a child together. It was much more than that. It was the attempt to find that bond that led me to write this particular blog. I was skimming through all the snaps we had taken ever since we met and each of these photos share a story. I still haven't found out what I was looking for in the beginning of this exercise, maybe it was never meant to be found!

This was taken on the day our wedding was fixed. After the horoscopes matched, both of us were hoping that everything would work out. Our families had only seen our photographs and as with all arranged marriages, there were some complications here and there. On this particular day, we were walking across Bangalore city, receiving regular updates from my brother about the discussions that were going on between the parents and at one moment he messaged me, Congrats guys, you are going to be married!!! The photo was more or less an outcome of that happiness :)

Engagement is technically the best moment ever. You are legally entitled to date without any other bonds of marriage attached! I would say I had loads of fun on this particular day. My friends from Mysore added to the happiness. And the general consensus was that I looked pretty! But ofcourse, he looked smashing!!

Life between engagement and wedding for us were not really the perfect courting period as it usually is. We had differences to sort out, and it was a period of eating out all we could and gaining several kgs! My brother still remarks that I looked ugly at that time because of all the extra flesh. Well, take a look at me now and say that again!

In Chottanikkara temple, thaalikettu

Man and wife!

I promise I would take good care of your daughter, yeah, and i will manage her furious temper(!!!)

Where is my wife??. I think he looks extra handsome in this one!

Yeah!! There she is!!!

The beginning of the walk together....

The photo shoot begins!!

Can we call it a day? Hungry, Sweaty and Tired!!!

First day as Mrs Rajeev P S Nair

Another day in the estate of Udumbanchola

Our first car together. This was a Wagon R: KA 51- P- 8260. Rajeev named the car as Raman Kutty, Wagon Raman Kutty. Raman Kutty was with us through many beautiful memories. Selling him off after we relocated to Kerala was truly a painful moment!! Somewhere in the records though, he still belongs to us. We once got a mail saying that Raman Kutty's owner violated some traffic rules somewhere!

Around the first wedding anniversary!

In our flat in Bangalore where we made a life together!






After one year of marriage, we realized that a new person was coming to our life. It was all thrill, excitement and longingness. At the point when we didn't know if it would be a boy or a girl, we called the baby 'Thakkudu'. Tracking Thakkudu's schedule of the day was the main agenda of our life. Through the morning sickness, throwing up inside the car and all the blues, we waited for Thakkudu to come! After some really killing moments, we got Thakkudu and then we knew that Thakkudu was Siddhi!

Dad holding his daughter for the first time. He was so scared to do this! That his Kung Fu hands might hurt her baby skin!

The day she became Siddhi. She was so tiny, no one could believe that she was my daughter!

Second wedding anniversary.

Siddhi's choroonu in Chollalkaavu Devi Temple

Siddhi's first birthday! She was all grumpy and uncomfortable because of all the attention.

A recent photograph.







We may not be prefect for each other. I don't think anyone in this world could be perfect for anyone else. But we have made a life together. And our small world is as beautiful as we would make it. Thanks for the life, for moving through those moments when I was as bad as anyone could ever get !!!!